Anger at Daughter Shunning Dad Who Left Cheat Mom for New Woman

A woman has been branded a "hypocrite" by her boyfriend for cutting ties with her father after he left her mom to be with someone else.

According to a Reddit post detailing the dispute, the situation is complicated further by the fact her mom had previously cheated on her dad. Despite this, his now-adult daughter has ceased all contact with him and wants her partner to do the same.

But while the woman's boyfriend appeared determined to maintain a friendship with her dad, many online were left conflicted by his account of events.

A U.S. General Social Survey, found 20 percent of men and 13 percent of women have admitted to having sex with someone other than their spouse while married.

While some are able to reconcile, the fallout remains significant, especially when children are involved. According to counsellor Carole Spiers the situation can be further complicated if the couple's children are now adults.

"As you get older, you begin putting your own expectations from a relationship onto your parents," Spiers told Newsweek. "You see yourself in that situation, you start being judgmental and thinking 'why did it happen? I wouldn't be like that.'"

That judgment appears to be on display in the viral Reddit post, written by the daughter's boyfriend under the handle helpppne.

According to the post, he has been with his girlfriend, Corey, for five years and considers her dad "a friend." He said three years ago, it emerged that Corey's mom had been having an affair. Her dad initially moved out, but they eventually reconciled after Corey "begged him to try counseling and talked about forgiveness."

Things changed last February, however, after Corey's dad left her for another woman. Now divorced, the boyfriend said that while he has maintained his "friendship" with Corey's dad, she has shunned him entirely.

"She's blocked her dad. Bashes him to friends and family. Gets mad at me for carrying on a relationship with him," he wrote. "She also goes to her mom's house regularly to 'comfort' her mom."

Angered at her reaction, the boyfriend said he recently branded Corey a "hypocrite," reminding her she "never blamed her mom" and "preached forgiveness" when she had cheated.

The comments sparked an argument between the pair, with Corey demanding he stop talking to her dad. He refused though, with the couple left at odds over their response to the dissolution of her parents' marriage.

They were not alone in expressing conflicting opinions on the matter, with the comments on Reddit proving to be a sea of similarly contrasting responses.

SnooCauliflowers9981 slammed the idea that things could "just go back to normal" after the mom's infidelity, but also slammed the dad for cheating and her boyfriend for "taking sides."

Financial_Tax1060 felt the damage had been done with the mom's initial affair, writing: "I guess he could've broken up before actually starting to date the new woman, but it seems like a relatively insignificant point to me."

Nazgul417 agreed that he "probably should have gotten a divorce first, but all bets are off when you cheat on your husband."

A Different Perspective

Binky390 disagreed though, commenting: "He chose to get back together though... If he didn't want to get back together, he didn't have to." Bubblegumprincessxo, meanwhile, wrote: "Everyone in this family is too involved in the parents dysfunctional relationship for that to be healthy."

Spiers suggested outside perspective is crucial to helping understand family matters of this kind. "Sometimes you need somebody else to talk to, to get that different perspective, and realise that not everything is exactly as you thought it was going to be," she told Newsweek. "Not every relationship is going to last forever."

But while an outside perspective is important, she felt it would be better for that perspective to come from someone "neutral" like a counsellor.

"A boyfriend could do it if they have the skillset," she said. "But it's quite difficult because you end up in a situation where it's very hard to be objective. Talking to a parent who has been shunned by a partner could also be viewed as a sign of disloyalty. So that's where a therapist is going to be objective."

Newsweek has contacted helpppne for comment.