Husband Refusing to Cook Thanksgiving Roast to Suit In-Laws Sparks Debate

The internet has urged a man to cook two roasts, or split the one in half and cook it two ways after he complained about his in-laws wanting the meat medium well instead of medium rare.

In a post shared on Reddit earlier in November from an account that has since been deleted, the man explained that he and his wife are hosting their families for Thanksgiving this year, and they managed to buy a good quality rib roast for the special dinner.

The problem arose when his wife asked him to cook the meat medium well rather than medium rare as he was planning because her family members "don't like it bloody."

He said: "I told her that they can eat the end slices, which tend to be more cooked than the bulk of the roast. And if that's still too "bloody," they can nuke their piece after it's cut." Adding that he does not want to "ruin" the good piece of meat by cooking it medium well, she thinks he's trying to impose his "pretentious preferences" onto everyone.

According to The Pricer, prime ribs are probably the most expensive meat on the market, and depending on the cut and the location, it can cost between $12.99 and $25.99 per pound.

Michael Sanguinetti, a personal and private chef with INTUEAT, a luxury on-demand culinary platform, told Newsweek that the best way to cook a 5-to-7-pound prime rib roast is to preheat the oven to 475 degrees, evenly coat garlic-herbed compound butter on the entire prime rib, and place the rib roast on a baking rack pan and cook for 15 minutes per pound, making sure to check it's your desired temperature.

Once you remove the rib roast from the oven, let rest for 5 minutes, and if it is a bone-in roast, carefully carve off the bones making sure not to cut into the roast. A pro tip he also shared is to brush the excess butter and garlic mixture from the pan onto each piece before serving.

He said: "If you are cooking for multiple people who want their meat cooked differently, pre-slice the meat (after it's roasted) and cook each in an individual pan with butter for 30 seconds on each side per temp up, and always take into account how thick you slice it."

The post, first shared on the r/AmItheA****** subreddit, where people discuss their actions with impartial strangers online, has so far received over 11,500 upvotes and 2,900 likes.

One user, Gellyguy, commented: "Just cut the raw roast in half, and take one out sooner. My friend, learn to compromise and meet your partner halfway. Little shit like this has a tendency to build up into other stuff. There is a way in everyday life to have your cake and eat it too. Also yes. [You would be the a******]. Choose a better hill to die on man."

And BasicDesignAdvice said: "To be fair 'medium rare' is very much the most common temp. As a server, I probably took thousands of steak orders and this was far and away the most common temp. The second is medium. The remaining 5 percent are mostly rare, then a sliver of 'well done.' That said it's not hard to cook a few pieces to well done after carving."

Another user, Moon96Moon wrote: "Is 2022 why are we still debating if people deserve to eat the meat like they like it or not?? Cook the part they gonna eat for longer, you're not gonna eat it, they would enjoy it, everyone would be happy, dear lord why y'all like this??"

And Skizzybee added: "Everyone seeing this as a dispute over meat cooking and not a dispute over graciously hosting Thanksgiving are missing the point. Enjoy your perfectly cooked meat this year, OP. You won't get the chance to host Thanksgiving again. [You're The A******]."

Newsweek was not able to verify the details of the case.