Man Accused of 'Hiding' Wealthy Aunt's Inheritance From Girlfriend Praised

The internet has slammed a girlfriend who demanded her boyfriend give her money from his late aunt's inheritance, which he has already used to help pay for his student loan.

In a post shared on Reddit last Sunday, the man, who goes by the username u/treetop-octopus, explained that a couple of years ago he received a $50,000 inheritance from a late aunt who was quite wealthy and left all cousins the same amount.

He used most of the money right away to help pay for his student debt and put what was left towards retirement, pledging to never touch it.

His girlfriend recently heard of the inheritance from one of his cousins and got mad that he "hid it" from her, and didn't give her any of it. The boyfriend was baffled because when he got the inheritance, they had only been dating for a couple of months, and it was "way too early for that kind of financial entanglement."

"She got even more upset and said that I should use some of it for her now, but I once again told her the money was basically gone. All that's left is in a retirement account, and I'm not touching that.

"We argued back and forth some more, and I got the sense she didn't quite believe me about the money and thought that I had more left than I said I did. Nothing I could say would convince her otherwise."

According to data by New Retirement, this year the least wealthy group of families have received, on average, $6,100 in inheritance, while the wealthiest 1 percent of families have received, on average, $2.7 million.

A further breakdown of these numbers reveals that the wealthiest 1 percent of families have inherited $447 for every $1 the least wealthy group of families has.

The average retired adult who dies in their 60s leaves behind $296,000 in net wealth, which becomes $313,000 for retirees in their 70s, $315,000 in their 80s, and $283,000 in their 90s.

The post which was first shared on the r/AmITheA**hole subreddit has gone viral, receiving almost 10,000 upvotes and 1,700 comments.

One user commented: "You are [NotTheA**hole]. Your [girlfriend] sounds like a red flag."

Another joked: "Does she demand part of his paycheck too?"

A third commented: "Giant red flags everywhere. OP, you're dating this girl, you're not engaged, have no kids together, doesn't sound like she's even living with you so you have no shared expenses. And she EXPECTS you to pay off HER debt with YOUR inheritance money, debt that she accrued all herself, long before you were together.

"Ask her to pay off your debt and pay for a bunch of your shit first, then you'll talk about forking over any inheritance money to her (just to gauge her reaction, I still wouldn't give her a dime as it isn't her inheritance, but I have a feeling if you asked her for money she would freak out and it would be a hard NO before anything else, and will prove she sees you as nothing but a meal ticket) [NotTheA**hole], OP."

A different user joked: "I'm not saying she's a gold digger buuuttt..."

While another warned: "[NotTheA**hole] Run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. Red flags everywhere. After a couple of months dating, she thinks she's entitled to your funds? I don't think so. Best to cut it off asap, or she's going to hound you mercilessly."

Newsweek reached out to u/treetop-octopus for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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