New Mom Who 'Can't Get Past' What Husband Asked After Giving Birth Backed

A new mom has responded to her husband's request for a paternity test in brutal fashion: By asking for a divorce.

But while her response may seem extreme, many felt it was justified once she began to divulge more about their relationship. The arrival of a new baby can put a strain on even the most stable of relationships. In some instances, it can even break them.

A 2019 poll of 2,000 new moms and dads conducted by news agency SWNS found that a third suffered serious problems in the months after their baby's birth, while a fifth ended up splitting for good before their child even turned 1.

However, the 29-year-old mom behind an angry anonymous post shared to Reddit appears unwilling to even give it that much time.

Writing under the handle u/throwrafuriousrant she described how she was left "offended and disgusted" after her husband asked for a paternity test to be carried out on their son.

She's now preparing to give him the test results, confirming he is the baby's father, along with divorce papers. "I've been in a state of furious shock since he asked me," she wrote. "I don't think I've ever hated someone more quickly."

The woman said she has yet to feel any sense of sadness over the end of the relationship either. "I honestly wish our son was a sperm donor baby," she wrote. "I wish I'd had the foresight."

Some of her anger is fueled by the fact she went through a traumatic birth in which she suffered a near fatal hemorrhage. "For a bit I thought the hate I suddenly had for him was irrational and then I realized, no. I'd almost died to bring this child into the world for us," she wrote."

The new mom went on to explain that her husband told her he had "planned the whole time" to have her agree to a paternity test. But despite him apparently claiming they can "get past this" she is already planning for life without him.

"We can't get past this. I have no intention of ever sacrificing for you again," she wrote. "You don't deserve what I gave for us. I will be going for no contact co-parenting."

Commenting on the post, Ranesha Especto, a licensed professional counselor at Thriveworks, a nationwide provider of in-person and online therapy services, told Newsweek that the couples issues were "far bigger" than him asking for the test.

Instead, it appeared to boil down to a "lack of trust" on his part.

"Trust should always be present in a healthy relationship, especially before bringing a baby into the picture," she said. "A marriage and growing family takes two."

She urged the mom and dad to find a way to have a conversation on their deeper issues once both parties have calmed down, though Especto was unsure over whether they had a future.

"If a question brought the couple to divorce, then it was likely a weak foundation to begin with," she said. "I don't think either party is wrong for their perspective, but both could benefit from looking at things from an objective lens."

Others on Reddit sided firmly with the new mom though.

"Good for you for not standing for this treatment," one wrote. "Your kid is going to know what it's like to have a strong, confident mother that shows them to never settle for mistreatment."

Another commented: "I feel your rage coming through. I'm so sorry he put you through this. I think you have every right to leave," while a third added: "I'm sorry that you endured so much pain and trauma to bring your little one into the world, just for your husband to sour your happiness with an accusation like this."

Newsweek reached out to u/throwraFuriousRant for comment via Reddit chat. We could not verify the details of the situation.

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