Woman Backed For Ending Marriage After Finding Incriminating 'Package'

A married mother-of-two has been praised for kicking her husband out of the house and preparing to file for divorce after uncovering evidence he was having an extramarital affair.

In a series of posts shared to Mumsnet under the handle StillBreathingJust, the jilted wife said her husband had been "unfaithful in the past" with things like "sexting" other women but they had been able to work through those problems.

However, that all changed when she discovered a "package" of sex toys and other items in their home. "That's what started my snooping and it was quickly resolved in about thirty seconds," she wrote. "This was no accident."

According to an exclusive poll for Newsweek, one-fifth of Americans admit to having cheated on a partner. The poll by Redfield & Wilton Strategies asked 1,500 adults aged 18+ in the U.S. between October 23-24 about personal relationships.

Some 38 percent of respondents were married, while 29 percent said that they were single. While the majority of respondents said that they had never been unfaithful, about one-fifth (21 percent) admitted that at some point they had cheated on a partner.

Anyone who has experienced the heartbreak of discovering a partner has been unfaithful will know the pain it causes, yet some are still willing and able to salvage a relationship from these kinds of circumstances.

That does not appear to be the case for this particular woman though, despite the fact she shares two-year-old and four-year-old kids with her soon-to-be-ex.

She said there is "no chance of reconciliation" despite the fact she's "terrified" of what life will look like without the financial support of her husband. The mom had been studying at night school with a view to retraining while their children are small but that is now "in jeopardy" as a result of the split.

But despite having no family to call on for support, she was simply unwilling to contemplate them finding a way past this. "Aside from feeling completely sick and disgusted, I'm just absolutely gutted for my children," she wrote. "He's ruined their family."

She added: "I can't get over that kind of betrayal and I don't want to spend a single ounce of energy on it."

Commenting on the woman's plight, Rachel DeAlto, Chief Dating Expert at Match, told Newsweek she should seek out advice during this period.

"Don't try to deal with it on your own: talk to someone you trust for support," she said. "This could be a friend or professional, but it's essential to allow yourself to express how you're feeling."

DeAlto also recommended she "avoid making any big decisions" in the immediate aftermath of what happened. "Making decisions when we're feeling emotional can often lead to regret. Instead, wait until you have a clearer head before making any important calls," she said.

Above all else, the dating expert urged the woman to "take time to heal" and give yourself time to "grieve and move on" from the relationship before rushing into anything else."

Spend time with your friends and family, get back into hobbies that you enjoy, and be patient with yourself," DeAlto said.

The messages of support flooded in on social media, with Mumsnet users expressing sympathy and encouragement to the understandably distraught woman. "I'm so sorry this has happened to you," Magpitesalute wrote. "You sound incredibly sensible so I'm sure you'll get everything sorted out in due course."

Rockingbird advised: "Do nothing hasty at this point apart from kicking his sorry a** out" with DoubleBuggyDriver adding: "you've been really brave to kick him out instead of begging him to pick between the two of you ... you're absolutely doing the right thing for you and your kids."

GiltEdgers, meanwhile, concluded: "Affairs aren't mistakes, they're conscious choices."

Newsweek could not verifying the details of this case.