Mom Shares 'Controversial' List of Things She Will Never Let Daughters Do

A mom-of-three has shared six rules on TikTok that her daughters must abide by while living under her roof.

Racking up 2.9 million views, Lottie Weaver can be seen laying down the law while sitting in her house in Las Vegas.

Weaver told Newsweek: "I feel like I am somewhere in the middle of strict parenting and gentle parenting."

The clip captioned: "Do you guys agree?? I feel like these are pretty common!" has sparked a debate since it was shared on April, 23.

During the clip shared to @lottie..weaver, she gives a reason for each rule such as she must be introduced to a potential date before they go out.

She describes herself as an "observant parent" who will check their phones. This then leads to her third rule for her kids who are 4, 8, and 11 years old. She refers to their cell phones as hers too and will go on it whenever necessary to make sure they are not speaking to strangers.

The next rule is about their social lives, Weaver explains that they can't go out all day and night without coming home—even if they are 17. Weaver, an influencer, wants her children to at least check in for 30 to 60 minutes if they have a busy weekend schedule.

Weaver also will not tolerate missing assignments, and they must always turn their schoolwork in. While she isn't necessarily bothered about the grades, she wants to make sure the girls are trying.

The last rule is about small pets. She points out that she is only happy to own the family dogs and will not have anything small as she will be the one looking after it.

When asked by Newsweek which is the most important boundary, Weaves said: "Meeting the people they choose to hang out with and be around.

"I think it's very important to know who your kids' friends are."

What Did the Expert Say?

Newsweek discussed setting boundaries with Ana Aznar, a child psychologist and founder of REC Parenting, an online platform supporting parents and caregivers.

Aznar said: "Communication is important, but remember that ultimately you are in charge. If you consider that there are four or five rules that are important to you, stick with them and be consistent when implementing them.

"Ultimately, the rules parents establish at home very much depends on their values."

For cell phone rules, Aznar, who is based in London, encourages parents to "set up clear rules" before giving the child their first phone.

"This means there fewer arguments later," she explained. "Some parents and children even sign a screen time contract."

She says that children are less likely to engage in risky online behavior when they use their phone in a communal room with other people around them.

TikTok Reacts

At the time of writing, the clip that has "controversial parenting" hashtags has 405,000 likes and a clear divide in the comments section.

Weaver told Newsweek that she isn't shocked by the responses, she said: "I feel like parenting is all over the place these days."

"I grew up with a lot of rules and I was a little rebel, so I want to try and give my kids a little more freedom within reason.

One comment said: "The phone one was crazy, that's my privacy."

"These are all so valid [to be honest]. My parents always had my password but never checked my phone [because] they didn't have a reason to. I think regular checks are overbearing but knowing the password, totally!" said another.

A third commenter said: "I clutched my phone and shook my head."

Another said: "These aren't even that bad...they are so reasonable."

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