Woman Backed for Telling Husband's Family the Truth About His Infertility

A woman told her husband's family that he was infertile after she overheard him lying to them that she wasn't able to have children and that he was thinking of leaving her, while he still had time for a baby with someone else.

She shared the episode in a Reddit post, under the name u/MotorAcrobatic7351, where she explained that the couple has been married for 6 years and since last year they have unsuccessfully tried to have a baby.

After months of no results, they consulted a fertility specialist, who informed the couple that the husband was infertile and that's why they were conceiving.

The National Library of Medicine says that infertility affects about 15 percent of all couples in the United States and at least 180 million worldwide, and the male partner is solely responsible for not being able to conceive in about 20 percent of cases and is a contributing factor in another 30 percent to 40 percent of all infertility cases.

There are multiple causes of male infertility, including endocrine disorders, usually due to hypogonadism, at an estimated 2 to 5 percent, sperm transport disorders, such as vasectomy, at 5 percent, and primary testicular defects, including abnormal sperm parameters without any identifiable cause, at 65 to 80 percent and idiopathic, where an infertile male has normal sperm and semen parameters, at 10 to 20 percent.

In her post, the woman said that once they discovered her husband was infertile he asked her to use a sperm bank, but changed his mind right after, saying that "it wouldn't really be his [child]."

He then started making ridiculous comments to her, saying that she might as well just cheat on him with her brother-in-law and that her boss at work "would be happy to put a baby in [her]."

During a recent family dinner, she overheard her husband complaining to his family about not being able to have children, but instead of telling them the truth, he told them that his wife was infertile, and he was thinking of leaving her for that reason.

She then started crying and told everyone the truth, and has since left her marital home and avoided her husband.

The post, which was shared on the r/AmItheA**hole subreddit, has so far gotten over 10,200 upvotes and 1,200 comments.

One user said: "[NotTheA**hole]. Your husband being infertile feels like karma in this case: nature's way of telling this particular piece of work not to procreate. Do not have children or tie yourself down to this man any further, OP.

"The way he has treated you is beyond reprehensible; he deserved to be embarrassed and honestly deserved much worse than he got. Projecting his own issues onto you, publicly, and then making a joke about "trading you in," is so incredibly disrespectful. I can't imagine how this man would treat a child, or you, as normal life things happen over time (illnesses, accidents, etc.) Time to reconsider this relationship, I'd say. [NotTheA**hole] at all!"

Another user commented: "I am pretty sure he would treat the baby from the sperm donor horribly and his wife even more."

A third wrote: "OP did not humiliate her husband at all. She told people the truth which exposed his lies. He only has himself to blame. What a complete and total [A**Hole]."

While a fourth user said: "[NotTheA**hole]! I hope you know that. He sounds cruel and ridiculous. Serious Lord Farquaad vibes. P.S. you still have plenty of time to have kids with a sane person if that's what you want. I just had my first at 33! Most of the other women I saw in the OB waiting room at my appointments were my age or older."

Newsweek reached out to u/MotorAcrobatic7351 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.