Michael Ilesanmi of '90 Day Fiance' 'Missing' in America

One of the most controversial stars of 90 Day Fiancé claims her husband has gone missing after setting foot in America.

Angela Deem married Michael Ilesanmi in 2020 after meeting online in 2018 and tracking their romance on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, and other spin-offs of the TLC reality series.

After waiting almost four years to live together following their wedding in Ilesanmi's native Nigeria, he finally arrived in December to live with Deem in the U.S.

Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi
Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi on "90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?" Deem says Ilesanmi has gone missing. TLC

But now Deem is claiming her husband has gone missing and has left all his belongings behind.

Newsweek contacted Deem's manager by email for comment.

"Michael's been missing since the 23rd. The police are involved, we can't find him," she said on Monday in a conversation with celebrity blogger John Yates during a YouTube live.

"Michael left everything here. I know that there's people probably think, 'Oh, maybe he just left.' But like, nothing, not any ID, nothing to show his name on it, no clothing, not a toothbrush. Zero point zero zero. No wallet, nothing. Clothes on his back is what he left with on Friday," she continued, saying he only had around $40 with him.

"If he left on his own, he should have called me. Everybody in this town, I'm gonna tell you, they say, 'Angela, he's f***** walked out because he's got no reason to stay here.' I don't want to believe that."

Deem went on to blast her husband based on some people's hypothesis that he abandoned her home in Georgia.

"I'm telling you now. I'm not gonna let you f***ing come here if you didn't love me," she said.

"He's my husband and I love him and i don't know where he's at. As long as he's safe, just call us. The police are involved. This is beyond what the f*** is going on. You got my four grandkids crying that something's wrong with you."

The reality star then compared the situation to their fellow 90 Day Fiancé stars, Paul and Katrine Staehle, saying he and Ilesanmi "were not" the same. Katrine had claimed Paul went missing in her native Brazil in September, but he told Newsweek he had got lost in a remote area without cell service for a period of time.

But before her interview with Yates, Deem posted some cryptic messages to her social media.

On Monday she shared the quotes: "You've been lied on, talked about, plotted against and STILL BLESSED," and "Manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their disrespect. Read that again."

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